Paying for an Indian Wedding

In traditional Indian weddings, the financial responsibilities are typically divided between the bride’s and groom’s families based on long-standing customs. However, these customs can vary by region, community, and personal preferences. Here’s a general overview of the traditional distribution of expenses:

1. Bride’s Family: • Wedding Ceremony: The bride’s family traditionally bears the cost of the main wedding ceremony. This includes the venue, decor, food, and any related ceremonial expenses.

• Dowry or Gifts: In some communities, there’s a tradition of providing a dowry, though it’s important to note that the dowry system is officially illegal in India due to the misuse and associated social issues.

• Pre-wedding Rituals: Events like the Mehndi (henna ceremony) and Sangeet (musical night) might be covered by the bride’s family if they host them.

• Bride’s Apparel and Jewelry: The bride’s wedding outfit, accessories, and traditional jewelry are usually provided by her family.

2. Groom’s Family: • Reception: It’s traditional for the groom’s family to host and pay for the wedding reception, which often takes place a day after the main wedding ceremony.

• Baraat Arrangements: The groom’s procession (Baraat) to the wedding venue, which might include hiring bands, horses, or cars, is usually borne by the groom’s family.

• Groom’s Apparel: His wedding attire and accessories are generally covered by his family.

3. Shared Costs: In some cases, especially in modern times, families should share some of the costs. This isn’t 1942. This approach is more common now as couples and their families prioritize partnership and collaboration over strictly adhering to traditional norms. In contemporary settings, especially among diaspora communities and urban populations in India and America, it’s becoming more common for the bride and groom to contribute financially, or for both families to split the wedding expenses more evenly. Some couples also choose to finance their weddings independently. It’s essential to communicate openly about financial expectations and commitments well before the wedding to ensure clarity and avoid misunderstandings.